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Has someone ever asked you what your sexual fantasies are? Get into a conversation with anyone, and their answers would knock off your boots. "Oh, I wanna have sex with a stranger I've never met before right there in public." "Mine is to get down on it while driving on a highway.""I'd like to explore all parts of my home, including our garden.""I want to be entirely dominated by my partner in the bedroom, with him going all hard on me; I just wanna be abused."If you have ever nursed thoughts similar to the last line above, then BDSM is the term you were looking for. In the United States alone, over 47% of women and 60% of men have fantasized about dominating a partner sexually.

BDSM simply put, is a form of kinky play where you have activities like restraint, sensory stimulation or deprivation, power dynamics, impact play, fetishes, power play, role-playing, pain play, bondage, wax play, edging, and humiliation. You can broadly dissect the acronym BDSM as:

  • Bondage: Restricting a partner's freedom of movement with diverse restraint tools.
  • Discipline: Mutually agreed-upon rules and punishments for a dominant partner to exert control over a submissive partner.
  • Dominance: Dominating a partner during sexual intercourse or outside of the bedroom. The person playing this role is called the dominant (Dom).
  • Submission: This shows submission to whatever the dominant partner wishes. The person playing this role is called the submissive (Sub).
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Sadism and Masochism (or Sadomasochism) — This is the pleasure that a partner feels from either inflicting (sadism) or receiving pain (masochism), either physical or emotional. However, there's something you mustn't forget when it comes to BDSM. It's highly essential that it comes with consent and ample thought for safety. Pain and humiliation are looked upon as negative by many. But when it is done within the confines of approval and consent — this is BDSM. If you've ever taken an interest in BDSM, then you should know all about the concepts, equipment, and devices to practice it safely and enjoyably.

 

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BDSM Restraints

When diving into the erotic pleasures and kinkiness of BDSM, these are your starter equipment. As their name implies, they are a set of sexual gears designed to keep the submissive from moving while setting them up for all sorts of discipline and erotic humiliation.

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Bondage Tapes

If you've been in the BDSM community for a while, you'll agree how criminally underrated the bondage tape is. As an enthusiast, this should be part of your collection. Bondage tapes don't stick to your body leading to any tear to your skin. It's been made to stick only to itself. It is a fast and efficient means to cuff the hands or tie to a post. It can even double as a blindfold or gag if need be. Getting them should be 100%.

Cuffs and Straps

When it comes to bondage, this is the first stop for many. They are safe and effective for pros and beginners as most models usually contain all you need to restrain someone. It gets juicier as you can tie the restraints to each other to make your hand and feet cuffs when needed.

Ball Gags and Bit Gags

BDSM is big on restraint, and speech restraint is king itself. Being a mouthful, ball gags are perfect for restricting the sub's speech and breathing. It's also not uncommon to drool while wearing one, so it can add a tinge of humiliation. This is something to keep in mind when you're seeking to dish out some punishment!

If you'd rather have a gag you can bite on; you're better off going with a bit gag. This will also protect the corners of the sub's mouth from getting irritated if the straps make contact. Also, biting down on it during rough play is quite useful, allowing you to push the pain further than you normally would. It's also easier to breathe and talk with these. It is highly recommended to consider them when making your choice.

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Bondage Ropes

Still speaking of restraints, your bondage gear is incomplete without your bondage ropes. The positioning of the ropes along with the careful placement of knots can stimulate pressure points along the body to great effect. This could, in addition to the intended purpose, release endorphins and bring more euphoria. Shibari ropes are the most recommended type of bondage ropes. Consider adding them to your bondage accessories.

Blindfolds and Bondage Hoods

As you are trying to include more deprivation in your BDSM experience, blindfolds and hoods are essential tools to incorporate into your practice. Sensory deprivation, while simple in practice, can be more intense than any other type of restriction. This is because blocking out one or more of your senses forces your remaining sensory receptors to sharpen in an attempt to compensate. You can make things even more extreme by using an earplug and take the deprivation to a darn new level. However, you have to be careful with bondage hoods. Be sure to allow ventilation so breathing isn't impeded.

 

Spreader Bar

The spreader bar has sites for attachments at both ends where you can tie the wrists or the ankles together to keep them apart. With this, the dom gets proper access to the sub's body allowing for complete dominance to be exercised.

Suspension Bondage

If you both desire to get even wilder, give this a try. The sub gets hung from one of two suspension points, either vertically, horizontally, and more dangerously, in an inverted position. Suspension bondage is regarded by many as the holy grail of bondage in BDSM as you are at more risk with this than any other form.

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BDSM Furniture

There is so much furniture that exists in the BDSM world. They provide the platform for proper BDSM plays. Many can be used, but we'll take a look at a few that are of interest.

Bondage Bench

They come in all forms and varieties. They are meant to keep the sub in a more horizontal position — kneeling, bent over, or completely flat. Its popularity shot through the roof recently, with rumors surfacing that some celebrities have it in their homes.

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Bondage Chair

The chairs come in different sizes and shapes to fit the sub. However, its most attractive part is the presence of holes at strategic parts of the chair, especially at the anus or genitals — leaving the subject at the mercy of their master. Whoosh!

Bondage Table

What room is complete without the table? The bondage table has to be part of your BDSM furniture just because it's one of the easiest to get. This can be any furniture with a flat surface designed for restraining. The sub is kept restricted on the table while getting the teasing of their life. They can be designed to fit for different purposes. You can have one designed to have a hole for a man's penis allowing the dominant to milk him, blowing his mind away without him even seeing.

 

Bondage Bed

You can talk of the bondage bed as serving two primary purposes — to torture and to tease. It goes from having all sorts of restraint kits to a waterproof bedsheet (especially for those into all forms of water play, since you wouldn't want your sheets ruined). It's all in for various forms of kinky plays you can imagine.

Bondage Horse

This has its variants, with different shapes and designs. But a widespread type is the sawhorse that comes with a beam and four legs. The essence of the horse is to allow for different possibilities of positioning and binding for the sub. Just picture it. It goes from bending them over completely on the beam to standing over the beam with the legs on opposite sides. The possibilities are as you can devise.

Bondage Cage

This furniture is on a whole different level. It keeps the humiliation high and practically exudes the definition of bondage. Its purpose is to restrict all movement while also providing some sort of sensory excitation. Cages can be used for all sorts of BDSM play but with a limitation. The structure limits complete body access as the cage itself becomes a more physical/mental barrier for the sub. So, you might want to think well on this one before getting it.

The cages come in different forms. We have the:

  • Leather, Rubber, and net cage.
  • Standing and Horizontal Cages.
  • Gibbet (human-shaped) Cage.
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BDSM Cross

You've probably guessed how it looks from the name. Usually, it is an X-shaped piece of equipment that restrains the wrist and exposes well the entirety of the anterior or posterior body.  Crosses force the sub to be restrained with their limbs spread open; the subject can face forward or backward depending on their preference.

Bondage Pillory

If you've watched some old Greek or European movies, then you'd be used to the pillory as it was always used as a form of punishment back in the days. Or was it? It's designed with a pole and a plank or metal framework across it, which has three holes for securing the head and hands. Recently, it's becoming more common BDSM equipment. Talk about redemption for the pillory.

Sensory Deprivation Bondage Gear

When going full fifty shades, consider yourself far off if you miss out on this vital part of the fun. During your play, the sub can be deprived of sensory sensation through blindfolds, bondage hoods (described earlier), bondage (gas) masks, vacuum beds, and BDSM sleep sacks.

Blindfolds

This involves using some scarf, sleep mask, or any other piece of clothing to deprive the sub of their sight, allowing the dom to concentrate on truly embracing the moment without having to worry about looking the part. You can get creative about your blindfold as long as it is safe.

If you are more concerned about the aesthetics, you can consider getting branded blindfolds instead and set the mood in motion.

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Bondage Hoods

Your preference largely comes to play here. What senses would you love to inhibit? Some models target either sight, speech, or hearing, while some target multiple senses simultaneously.

Some hoods also give you anonymity, especially for those who love recording their plays or at BDSM parties. They allow you to see, hear and speak all you want without getting seen.

Bondage Masks

Some refer to bondage masks as also bondage hoods. However, it's like a gas mask in this context and has enjoyed increasing popularity in the BDSM community. It's designed to keep air flowing while keeping sight, smell, hearing minimal. If you like your deprivation intense, add it to your BDSM supplies. 

BDSM Sleepsacks

Sleepsacks are huge sensory hinderers. Similar to sleeping bags, the sub climbs into it, and it's zipped up unto their necks. The sub gets immobilized, unable to move as it'll be very tight to their body, giving the Dom complete control. Sleepsacks have collars around the neck with internal arm sleeves, which deny the wearer access to any part of their body.

 

BDSM Tools for Impact Play

Now, it's time to get into action. The sub has been restricted with the tools and furniture of choice and different sensations reduced. You want to pull out the tools to get the job done – inflicting pain and pleasure simultaneously. Tools will include your whip, flogger, spanking belt, spanking paddles, cane, and crops. Let's take a journey on how they work.

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Whips

Take ten people who have used whips in a BDSM play before. Chances are they all have different tastes when it comes to whips. They also are the most dangerous in the chunk and are advised to be left to professionals. Whips range from the cow whip to a cat o'nine tails, Australian bullwhips, and many more. The goal is to inflict pain or, better put, pleasuring pain.

 

Cane

Typical canes for BSDM are made of synthetic or natural fiber. They cut through the air like a hot knife through butter. So take it slow and exercise restraint when using them.

 

Spanking Paddles

These lots have the largest surface area of them all. You'll mostly get a thud rather than a sting. But when it comes to pain, the leather ones take the credit compared to their wooden counterparts. When done right, they are always enjoyable and kinky.

Riding Crops

You can call this a modified whip without a lash. So the sub's going to feel lesser pain with this. They are fun to use and have a small impact area. You can expect the sub to feel some sting during play.

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Floggers

If you decide you want it cool, floggers might be a better option for you. They are more conveniently the most forgiving of them all as they spread well over a larger surface area and at low speeds inflict lesser pain while being somewhat stimulating.

BDSM Clothing and Fetish Wears

When it comes to BDSM, it's the word became flesh of 'dressed to kill.' You have to make it extreme, provocative, and fetish. Cause, why not? The materials are sexy and quite provocative. The best ones are leather, synthetic rubber, nylon, fishnet, PVC, and stainless steel. Wears include stiletto heel shoes and boots, hobble skirts, skimpy latex clothing, catsuit, bondage lingerie, harnesses, collars, corsets, full-body latex catsuits, stockings, miniskirt, crotchless underwear, garters, vinyl clothing, and handcuffs. Having either this in will tone up the atmosphere, adding to the perfect scene for the play. Let's explore them below.

Vinyl Clothing

This clothing completes the actual kinky and fetish feeling of your BDSM plays. They are made from brightly colored PVCs (most commonly black and red), giving them more aesthetic appeal.

Fetish Corsets

These are a must-have if you have a latex fetish. Even if you don’t, fetish corsets usually come in handy in BDSM. Lace up the corsets and behold the extreme waist reduction, constriction, and bondage it can provide.

Bondage Lingerie

These are kinky wears to add to your BDSM wardrobe. They come in different designs, from transparent erotic bondage sets to strapped down or faux leather bondage bra sets. Whichever you go for, you can be sure things will get heated up pretty fast.

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Collars, Chokers, and Body Harnesses

The most common type of fetish wear is by far the collar. Doubling as a leash when the need arises, the sub usually wears the collar in BDSM as proof of ownership. It's virtually the BDSM equivalent of a wedding ring! These could be stout bondage leather straps or typical chokers that many would take as fashion if worn in public. Body Harnesses are another key wear in BDSM. Just like the collar, they could be worn publicly as fashion items while doubling as something you could lay hands on during BDSM plays. With bondage straps and rings all around it, it's easier to strap the submissive to themselves, serving as a restraint.

Sexual Stimulation

During BDSM, you could easily get carried away with the physical part and forget it's mostly about sexual stimulation, deprivation, teasing. And if you think physical pain is real torment, then you should probably try out sexual tortures. You'll find the following useful in this kinky adventure.

Penis and Pussy Pumps

Depending on the sex of the submissive, this is somewhere to get started with the sexual teasing and stimulation. A Dom doesn't go first with their tongue or granting the sub the luxury of their own body. These pumps turn the sub on intensely while increasing blood flow and blowing their mind away.

 

Nipple and Clit Clamps

In BDSM, it's a continuous mix between pleasure and pain, and nipple clamps offer both on a gold platter. There are as many nipple clamp types as body sensitivities, which influence the feeling the sub gets, be it pain or pleasure. Their body might also be slightly oversensitive and react with the pain while the same could be pleasurable to another. Clit clamps are pretty similar to nipple clamps. They produce pleasurable sensations by pinching the clits, meaning an endless array of stimulation till it's removed.

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Ball Stretchers

Do you know that men feel intensely turned on when there's a feeling of weight around their balls? Fasten a ball stretcher around his scrotum, and he'll gasp not for air but in pleasure. They come in different shapes as desired by the makers, from rectangular to tubular.

 

Penis Plugs

A penis plug could come in even handier to achieve even more sexual stimulation for a male sub. They are inserted into the urethra to achieve sexual arousal by making the penis more sensitive and responsive. Even the strongest of men let out a roar of ecstasy when this is used.

 

Vibrators and Sex Machines

How can you say you had BDSM without these? You might argue, but I know you agree that this should be part of your BDSM accessories before going in. With vibrators and sex machines, the sub is placed on extreme stimulation. Be it on the clitoris, in the vagina, around the labia, the penis cap, the scrotum... You keep it on till they almost can't take it anymore, then you turn it up a notch.

Wartenberg Wheel

This device was initially used was to test for skin sensitivity. But trust the community to modify it into a sex tool that your skin is so sensitive to as it rolls systematically across. To get a better result, the dom rolls it along the erotic part of the sub's body, allowing them to voice out an opera of sensations.

Orgasm Control and Chastity Devices

Have you heard of the term edging before? When you do it to yourself, it might take a lot of self-control not to pass through the point of no return. How about if someone does it to you? In BDSM, it's an integral part that should always be explored. The sub is stimulated to the point you just know they are about to let out some orgasmic cry; then the stimulant is withdrawn. This almost drives most people crazy, as they crave that final round of stimulation that'll send them into a pool of eye-turning orgasm. Want to explore orgasm control and chastity even more? Use these devices.

 

Chastity Cages

These are also getting increasingly popular in the BDSM world and are made mostly for men. They are cage-like confinements made to prevent the cock from getting hard and stop masturbation. Use this as a show of dominance over a male sub. It rocks!

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Chastity Belts

Gone are the days when historically, men would go to war and wear this on their wives to ensure they remained faithful till they are back from war. In BDSM play, it's to show dominance and this time for both men and women. It's worth adding to your collection of tools. Materials for this could go from simple leather or plastic to stainless steel.

Cock Rings

When the desire is to keep the cock engaged for a long time, but not necessarily keep it 'caged,' cock rings are your go-to tool. They keep the penis erect for some time while delaying orgasm. It is a perfect way to get him stimulated for an extended period while denying him sweet release.

Humbler Bondage

Humbler bondage is for people who want things to get even kinkier and the male's orgasm even better controlled. Humbler bondage has a cuff that's meant just for the testicles, keeping them dangling in between the sub's laps. It's called humbler for a reason. The sub has to remain in a crouched position for it to be comfortable for them. It's practically humbling.

 

Electric Toys

Do you know you can use electricity during your BSDM play to make things kinkier? Not the painful, teeth-clenching kind. This serves as stimulation. You'll find very common electric toys like neon /violet wands and TENS units handy in your plays. Both neon wands and violet wands use static electricity to create a "shocking" feeling on the skin. TENS units work by using the conduction of electricity within the body to cause involuntary muscular contractions. You can make this more sexual by stimulating the steamy spots on the body. Whether you are new to it or a professional, these are devices that can make the list of your BDSM equipment.

Electric toys have intensities ranging from light to very heavy and painful. They are usually very safe to use; just keep them away from the heart and avoid employing them on people with medical implants like pacemakers.

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Conclusion

In getting your bondage accessories for you and your partner, ensure safety is the first priority. You don't want a domination toy that could be high risk or inflict excessive injuries. Never forget, it's always safety first. When that's set, it's time to get kinky and explore dominance and submission.

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